We women are funny creatures. We have high expectations. We demand the best from our husbands. Then we belittle them in our minds and hearts and even our words when they don't perform to our expectations. I was talking to a friend the other day about this phenonmenon. We will actually look at all the best qualities in every man we meet, then we compare our husband's worst qualities to these other men's best qualities. We will compose in our imagination the ideal man, taking all the best qualities and leaving behind the worst ones in our friend's husbands, our pastors, even our doctors. And then we get mad that our husband is not like our fantasy man. We also withhold respect, affection, love and sex from our husbands. These are the things that God has created our husbands to live on. It is their gasoline if you will. So, imagine a husband is a car. He needs premium quality gasoline to perform at his best. To perform the way God created him to perform. If you fill him up with this premium quality gasoline he will perform beautifully. But what do we wives do? We put rocks, and dirt and saw dust in our husband's tanks. Then when they don't perform the way we think they should we start kicking them in the side and wishing we had a newer model. We begin to covet other cars we see. All the while cramming more rocks and dirt into their fuel lines, clogging them up. It is a vicious cycle. They will never perform as long as we are cramming their tanks and fuel lines full of junk. And when they don't perform we want to cram more junk into their tanks and fuel lines. Do you get the picture I am trying to paint? What is the fuel they need? Love, affection, respect, words of affirmation, and ....sex! And what junk are we trying to force them to perform on? Derespect, belittling, coveting thoughts, abstinence and withholding affection. It is pandemic. Wives everywhere are doing this. If you are a wife and you are reading this, please hear me. I want to warn you. There is a bridge out ahead. And you are the passenger in the car that is heading straight for it. We need to wake up and be the first to break this cycle. We are in serious need of repentance. We have sinned against God and against our husbands. And ladies, let me tell you, there is nothing like a sleek, high performance ride in a luxury car. When we fuel our husband's tanks properly we are obeying God. We are loving and not hurting our husbands. And we benefit immensely! You cannot even begin to imagine the enjoyment you will benefit from when you fuel your car properly. And I am not kidding when I say, you cannot even imagine it. If you know you have not been fueling your car the way God intended for you then you are missing out big time. Trust me, I know firsthand and I can honestly say my marriage gets better everyday and I will NEVER go back to rocks and dirt and saw dust....
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